Love , sex and Relationships

Greetings once again....

This weeks topic is a little more intense... Love, sex and relationships are three words that we as woman have strong feelings about. We have responces from three women on this topic.

First we have Miss.Fields and here are her thoughts...

Trust is the word that bonds the words love, sex & relationship together when it comes to teens. Too many times we trust people that say they love us. Not realizing that every love is not a genuine love. We pull our selves to believe that every relationship is a lifetime, all because our partners say that they love us. Trust in love is what leads to all the wifey and the hubby talk. I find hubby and wifey to be funny. Those words are funny because they come from the roots of husband and wife. These words are created to make the relationship seem worth it. I created my own synopsis of the word wifey and the same applies to hubby.
Wife- English word meaning female companion of legal marriage

Y – Spanish word meaning AND.COMBINE THE TWO WIFE AND=WIFEY

Giving the man his wife and…. the crazy thing is half of the relationships won't last because there is no sex. Most teenage females are dating males close to ten years above age, because the idea of dating an adult seems to qualify them as an adult WRONG. Me myself I limit it to three years apart, and you must meet my mom. Some females get tangled up in sweet talk, in the I LOVE YOU’S & I MISS YOU’S. The shocking point/climax of the “relationship” is the one conversation that always seems to pop up, “when can I come over”, or “when you going to come thru.” Those to phrases are like hormone pills, sending hormones in each and every direction. Teens fear the feeling of neglect, and therefore forget the term no. It's not just the feeling of neglect, there is guilt, guilt because they didn't fulfill the wants of there “hubby or wifey.” So that is when morals are question, and L.O.V.E. (legs open very easy) comes into play.

I do not blame any of the choices made by teens on parents. Even though at many times there maybe problems at home where the teen chooses to rebel, but for teens like myself who have the parents in there life, that have people in there life that supply them with the correct morals, WHAT IS THE EXCUSE? Why question our moralities, to fulfill…hmm what do we fulfill?

Next we have Mrs. Hoy

Hmm… Love. Sex. And Relationships…



This woman once told me I hadn’t slept with enough men to get married. I thought she had lost her mind. Was I supposed to be a hoe before getting married?? Not a hoe, just experienced. As a woman I don’t think you can be good at love, sex or relationships until you have had a little experience with all of them. Yes you do have those one in a million couples who were each others first kiss, and all that other gooey shi* but I am grateful that before I said I do. I was confident in my sexuality, I loved myself, and I knew what a positive relationship was supposed to feel like.



Love- Is a fleeting thing, sometimes the same person you love can make you want to kill them. I believe in loving yourself first, because if you get so caught up in loving someone else you will lose you. I love, love. I love how it makes you believe the impossible, and the unbelievable. I love hard, I love to the point where thinking about that love makes me break into uncontrollable tears… Love is the gift that God gave us when he gave us life.



Sex- Sex is so often misconstrued as love. I have never thought that my sex was so good that it would make a man love me. But some women do. My favorite line is that there is nothing in mine that isn’t in someone else’s. With that said, I do believe that once a man/woman does love you, lack of sex or bad sex, will cause problems. Many women/men get comfortable, they forget that it was the “freak” in you that kept them attracted in the beginning. It’s that same freak that will keep him attracted in your marriage, relationship…which reminds me, I haven’t brought out Anastasia in a while…hehehe



Relationships- Some people are for a season and some are for a reason. Everyone is not meant to be in a relationship forever. Not every man/woman is husband/wife material for you! That doesn’t take away from who they are but some people are meant to have lifelong friendships and season long relationships. Maturity plays an important role in all relationships. Lack of life experience or just how you were raised can run someone off! We all have the right to be happy, and if a relationship isn’t contributing to your over all happiness you should take a good look at that relationship. Everyone is not made for a committed relationship, or not ready. My bestfriend and I have this running joke, when I was single and going on a date every night she pulled me to the side and said “Shay you are a relationship person I’m worried that you are not really enjoying this lifestyle” I laughed hysterically and said. “Sweetie I enjoy everything I do, if I’m single I’m gonna be single.” All that meant is you don’t have to spend every moment of your life attached to someone, how will you ever know who you are if you’ve spent your whole life accommodating someone else? First your parents, and their rules then your first love, and all their likes and dislikes, there has to be sometime where it’s all about you. The relationship that you build with yourself, provides you with an opportunity to be successful in your relationships with others.



(EXHALE)

ShayJ


And last but not least we have Mrs. Sterrett.. A word from the wise!

I love it that you seperated love and sex because they truly are to
different worlds.

love comes from with in which means if you don't love yourself first
you can't love anyone else. don't look for love, let love encase you.

sex now that one is an animal, sex and love are cousins but when sex
goes out on it's own it morphs into this insatiable monster whos only
desire is to be fed. sex doesn't require love or relationship. so be
careful when it chooses you!

Be true to yourself, you deserve a loving relationship which invokes
loving intimate sex anything else and you might as well get PAID for
it!


Wowwwwwwwwwwwwwwww.... I would like to thank these ladies for sharing there thoughts with us.. They have given us so much to sit on...

Until next time...