Yes ladies I'm back and with wilder topics.
My first topic is how do you or do you tell your friend she can do much better with her life?
I've learned in past situations that no matter how you may try to help some one else they have to want to help themselves! We as woman have the intentions of helping a friend and in the end we lose the friendship. You can't judge any ones relationship because you don't really know the standards by which they live by!Some woman have such low self esteem that they believe that they should be mistreated and abused . Then there are the strong woman who know " If he put his hands on me..." well you fill in the blank..lol But who are you to judge which relationship is right! As long as your friend or love one is happy shouldn't that be the only thing that matters? Now i know you're saying, " if it we're you're family member would you be saying the same thing? We'll I really don't know! You see i would want to help but what good would my help do if he/she runs back to the same thing?? Think about it! Do you believe that people who judge other people are unhappy with there own life and don't want to see anyone else happy??
I don't know You tell me guys?
Until next time!!
Friday, April 24, 2009
Friday, March 27, 2009
Part 2 of Love, Sex and relationships!!
Wow .. ladies we are still receiving responses from part1 that we had to add a part 2.. But remember to leave comments!!!
This blog is from Ms. Williams
Love is a tricky subject. Sex is fun. And well relationships require this kind of specialty touch. No matter how different they are as far as I am concerned love and relationships go hand and hand, so do love and sex. And well a relationship can be just as sexual as it can be either romantic or platonic.
I mean I look back on my past and I’ve had my share of all kinds of relationship. I’ve had romantic ones that I watched blossom into platonic relationships. But there is something about falling in love. There is something about a grown woman finding love that she dreamed of as a kid. There is something about that feeling that changes a person. Ever since me and my fiance got together, my outlook on life has been totally different. I take the time to enjoy the little things. I enjoy the conversations that we have and the fact that he is so not my traditional type is what makes it even better. Loving him taught me to love like never before. It taught me to understand things that sex didn’t teach. And yeah sex is so much better with the man that I love. It means so much more. It’s not just two people trying to reach a physical high. It’s two people who intend to share one life, sharing in an extremely intimate and sacred act of love.
Sex taught me satisfaction. My past relationships taught me about me. However, love it taught me to be the woman I was destined to be.
This blog is from Ms. Williams
Love is a tricky subject. Sex is fun. And well relationships require this kind of specialty touch. No matter how different they are as far as I am concerned love and relationships go hand and hand, so do love and sex. And well a relationship can be just as sexual as it can be either romantic or platonic.
I mean I look back on my past and I’ve had my share of all kinds of relationship. I’ve had romantic ones that I watched blossom into platonic relationships. But there is something about falling in love. There is something about a grown woman finding love that she dreamed of as a kid. There is something about that feeling that changes a person. Ever since me and my fiance got together, my outlook on life has been totally different. I take the time to enjoy the little things. I enjoy the conversations that we have and the fact that he is so not my traditional type is what makes it even better. Loving him taught me to love like never before. It taught me to understand things that sex didn’t teach. And yeah sex is so much better with the man that I love. It means so much more. It’s not just two people trying to reach a physical high. It’s two people who intend to share one life, sharing in an extremely intimate and sacred act of love.
Sex taught me satisfaction. My past relationships taught me about me. However, love it taught me to be the woman I was destined to be.
Love , sex and Relationships
Greetings once again....
This weeks topic is a little more intense... Love, sex and relationships are three words that we as woman have strong feelings about. We have responces from three women on this topic.
First we have Miss.Fields and here are her thoughts...
Trust is the word that bonds the words love, sex & relationship together when it comes to teens. Too many times we trust people that say they love us. Not realizing that every love is not a genuine love. We pull our selves to believe that every relationship is a lifetime, all because our partners say that they love us. Trust in love is what leads to all the wifey and the hubby talk. I find hubby and wifey to be funny. Those words are funny because they come from the roots of husband and wife. These words are created to make the relationship seem worth it. I created my own synopsis of the word wifey and the same applies to hubby.
Wife- English word meaning female companion of legal marriage
Y – Spanish word meaning AND.COMBINE THE TWO WIFE AND=WIFEY
Giving the man his wife and…. the crazy thing is half of the relationships won't last because there is no sex. Most teenage females are dating males close to ten years above age, because the idea of dating an adult seems to qualify them as an adult WRONG. Me myself I limit it to three years apart, and you must meet my mom. Some females get tangled up in sweet talk, in the I LOVE YOU’S & I MISS YOU’S. The shocking point/climax of the “relationship” is the one conversation that always seems to pop up, “when can I come over”, or “when you going to come thru.” Those to phrases are like hormone pills, sending hormones in each and every direction. Teens fear the feeling of neglect, and therefore forget the term no. It's not just the feeling of neglect, there is guilt, guilt because they didn't fulfill the wants of there “hubby or wifey.” So that is when morals are question, and L.O.V.E. (legs open very easy) comes into play.
I do not blame any of the choices made by teens on parents. Even though at many times there maybe problems at home where the teen chooses to rebel, but for teens like myself who have the parents in there life, that have people in there life that supply them with the correct morals, WHAT IS THE EXCUSE? Why question our moralities, to fulfill…hmm what do we fulfill?
Next we have Mrs. Hoy
Hmm… Love. Sex. And Relationships…
This woman once told me I hadn’t slept with enough men to get married. I thought she had lost her mind. Was I supposed to be a hoe before getting married?? Not a hoe, just experienced. As a woman I don’t think you can be good at love, sex or relationships until you have had a little experience with all of them. Yes you do have those one in a million couples who were each others first kiss, and all that other gooey shi* but I am grateful that before I said I do. I was confident in my sexuality, I loved myself, and I knew what a positive relationship was supposed to feel like.
Love- Is a fleeting thing, sometimes the same person you love can make you want to kill them. I believe in loving yourself first, because if you get so caught up in loving someone else you will lose you. I love, love. I love how it makes you believe the impossible, and the unbelievable. I love hard, I love to the point where thinking about that love makes me break into uncontrollable tears… Love is the gift that God gave us when he gave us life.
Sex- Sex is so often misconstrued as love. I have never thought that my sex was so good that it would make a man love me. But some women do. My favorite line is that there is nothing in mine that isn’t in someone else’s. With that said, I do believe that once a man/woman does love you, lack of sex or bad sex, will cause problems. Many women/men get comfortable, they forget that it was the “freak” in you that kept them attracted in the beginning. It’s that same freak that will keep him attracted in your marriage, relationship…which reminds me, I haven’t brought out Anastasia in a while…hehehe
Relationships- Some people are for a season and some are for a reason. Everyone is not meant to be in a relationship forever. Not every man/woman is husband/wife material for you! That doesn’t take away from who they are but some people are meant to have lifelong friendships and season long relationships. Maturity plays an important role in all relationships. Lack of life experience or just how you were raised can run someone off! We all have the right to be happy, and if a relationship isn’t contributing to your over all happiness you should take a good look at that relationship. Everyone is not made for a committed relationship, or not ready. My bestfriend and I have this running joke, when I was single and going on a date every night she pulled me to the side and said “Shay you are a relationship person I’m worried that you are not really enjoying this lifestyle” I laughed hysterically and said. “Sweetie I enjoy everything I do, if I’m single I’m gonna be single.” All that meant is you don’t have to spend every moment of your life attached to someone, how will you ever know who you are if you’ve spent your whole life accommodating someone else? First your parents, and their rules then your first love, and all their likes and dislikes, there has to be sometime where it’s all about you. The relationship that you build with yourself, provides you with an opportunity to be successful in your relationships with others.
(EXHALE)
ShayJ
And last but not least we have Mrs. Sterrett.. A word from the wise!
I love it that you seperated love and sex because they truly are to
different worlds.
love comes from with in which means if you don't love yourself first
you can't love anyone else. don't look for love, let love encase you.
sex now that one is an animal, sex and love are cousins but when sex
goes out on it's own it morphs into this insatiable monster whos only
desire is to be fed. sex doesn't require love or relationship. so be
careful when it chooses you!
Be true to yourself, you deserve a loving relationship which invokes
loving intimate sex anything else and you might as well get PAID for
it!
Wowwwwwwwwwwwwwwww.... I would like to thank these ladies for sharing there thoughts with us.. They have given us so much to sit on...
Until next time...
This weeks topic is a little more intense... Love, sex and relationships are three words that we as woman have strong feelings about. We have responces from three women on this topic.
First we have Miss.Fields and here are her thoughts...
Trust is the word that bonds the words love, sex & relationship together when it comes to teens. Too many times we trust people that say they love us. Not realizing that every love is not a genuine love. We pull our selves to believe that every relationship is a lifetime, all because our partners say that they love us. Trust in love is what leads to all the wifey and the hubby talk. I find hubby and wifey to be funny. Those words are funny because they come from the roots of husband and wife. These words are created to make the relationship seem worth it. I created my own synopsis of the word wifey and the same applies to hubby.
Wife- English word meaning female companion of legal marriage
Y – Spanish word meaning AND.COMBINE THE TWO WIFE AND=WIFEY
Giving the man his wife and…. the crazy thing is half of the relationships won't last because there is no sex. Most teenage females are dating males close to ten years above age, because the idea of dating an adult seems to qualify them as an adult WRONG. Me myself I limit it to three years apart, and you must meet my mom. Some females get tangled up in sweet talk, in the I LOVE YOU’S & I MISS YOU’S. The shocking point/climax of the “relationship” is the one conversation that always seems to pop up, “when can I come over”, or “when you going to come thru.” Those to phrases are like hormone pills, sending hormones in each and every direction. Teens fear the feeling of neglect, and therefore forget the term no. It's not just the feeling of neglect, there is guilt, guilt because they didn't fulfill the wants of there “hubby or wifey.” So that is when morals are question, and L.O.V.E. (legs open very easy) comes into play.
I do not blame any of the choices made by teens on parents. Even though at many times there maybe problems at home where the teen chooses to rebel, but for teens like myself who have the parents in there life, that have people in there life that supply them with the correct morals, WHAT IS THE EXCUSE? Why question our moralities, to fulfill…hmm what do we fulfill?
Next we have Mrs. Hoy
Hmm… Love. Sex. And Relationships…
This woman once told me I hadn’t slept with enough men to get married. I thought she had lost her mind. Was I supposed to be a hoe before getting married?? Not a hoe, just experienced. As a woman I don’t think you can be good at love, sex or relationships until you have had a little experience with all of them. Yes you do have those one in a million couples who were each others first kiss, and all that other gooey shi* but I am grateful that before I said I do. I was confident in my sexuality, I loved myself, and I knew what a positive relationship was supposed to feel like.
Love- Is a fleeting thing, sometimes the same person you love can make you want to kill them. I believe in loving yourself first, because if you get so caught up in loving someone else you will lose you. I love, love. I love how it makes you believe the impossible, and the unbelievable. I love hard, I love to the point where thinking about that love makes me break into uncontrollable tears… Love is the gift that God gave us when he gave us life.
Sex- Sex is so often misconstrued as love. I have never thought that my sex was so good that it would make a man love me. But some women do. My favorite line is that there is nothing in mine that isn’t in someone else’s. With that said, I do believe that once a man/woman does love you, lack of sex or bad sex, will cause problems. Many women/men get comfortable, they forget that it was the “freak” in you that kept them attracted in the beginning. It’s that same freak that will keep him attracted in your marriage, relationship…which reminds me, I haven’t brought out Anastasia in a while…hehehe
Relationships- Some people are for a season and some are for a reason. Everyone is not meant to be in a relationship forever. Not every man/woman is husband/wife material for you! That doesn’t take away from who they are but some people are meant to have lifelong friendships and season long relationships. Maturity plays an important role in all relationships. Lack of life experience or just how you were raised can run someone off! We all have the right to be happy, and if a relationship isn’t contributing to your over all happiness you should take a good look at that relationship. Everyone is not made for a committed relationship, or not ready. My bestfriend and I have this running joke, when I was single and going on a date every night she pulled me to the side and said “Shay you are a relationship person I’m worried that you are not really enjoying this lifestyle” I laughed hysterically and said. “Sweetie I enjoy everything I do, if I’m single I’m gonna be single.” All that meant is you don’t have to spend every moment of your life attached to someone, how will you ever know who you are if you’ve spent your whole life accommodating someone else? First your parents, and their rules then your first love, and all their likes and dislikes, there has to be sometime where it’s all about you. The relationship that you build with yourself, provides you with an opportunity to be successful in your relationships with others.
(EXHALE)
ShayJ
And last but not least we have Mrs. Sterrett.. A word from the wise!
I love it that you seperated love and sex because they truly are to
different worlds.
love comes from with in which means if you don't love yourself first
you can't love anyone else. don't look for love, let love encase you.
sex now that one is an animal, sex and love are cousins but when sex
goes out on it's own it morphs into this insatiable monster whos only
desire is to be fed. sex doesn't require love or relationship. so be
careful when it chooses you!
Be true to yourself, you deserve a loving relationship which invokes
loving intimate sex anything else and you might as well get PAID for
it!
Wowwwwwwwwwwwwwwww.... I would like to thank these ladies for sharing there thoughts with us.. They have given us so much to sit on...
Until next time...
Thursday, March 19, 2009
Week One ... Welcome.....
Greeting Ladies, (and gentleman who want to help)
This BlogSpot was created for us by us. We as woman have so many task and responsibilities that we tend to forget to take care of ourselves. Mentally, physically and emotionally. We put all of energy into being mother’s spouses, sisters, best friends and even enemies. It is time that we take care of ourselves, reach out to one another and encourage each other. THIS IS WHAT THIS SPOT IS FOR!! Leave a comment or a question. Feedback is strongly encouraged...
1. How do you maintain a marriage and be a mom?
Nenna's answer. You have to make time for both. He is just as important as your child. You chose to start a life with him, so is it fair that you neglect him or his needs. Yes he may be jealous at time of how you nurture and care for the kids but it's only because he wants the same attention. Schedule quality time for hubby, for the kids and for the family. This will give every one a chance to have your undivided attention and life will be a little sweeter...
2. Why it the relationships tend to is ended after the birth of a child?
Nenna's Answer... First, you must ask, did he want just a relationship? Or was he interested in having a baby and starting a family? Some guys don't want the package deal. They were fine with the way thing were. Children are a big responsibility and not every one is ready for that. The relationship may go sour because a child was not in the plan. Secondly, we as woman have our off days, but ladies NOT EVERYDAY IS AN OFF DAY! He wants to see the person he feels in love with once in a while. You have to be on your a game, always...
**** Please leave your comments and questions for POSITIVE feedback...
Until next time... Love your self, encourage your self!!
This BlogSpot was created for us by us. We as woman have so many task and responsibilities that we tend to forget to take care of ourselves. Mentally, physically and emotionally. We put all of energy into being mother’s spouses, sisters, best friends and even enemies. It is time that we take care of ourselves, reach out to one another and encourage each other. THIS IS WHAT THIS SPOT IS FOR!! Leave a comment or a question. Feedback is strongly encouraged...
1. How do you maintain a marriage and be a mom?
Nenna's answer. You have to make time for both. He is just as important as your child. You chose to start a life with him, so is it fair that you neglect him or his needs. Yes he may be jealous at time of how you nurture and care for the kids but it's only because he wants the same attention. Schedule quality time for hubby, for the kids and for the family. This will give every one a chance to have your undivided attention and life will be a little sweeter...
2. Why it the relationships tend to is ended after the birth of a child?
Nenna's Answer... First, you must ask, did he want just a relationship? Or was he interested in having a baby and starting a family? Some guys don't want the package deal. They were fine with the way thing were. Children are a big responsibility and not every one is ready for that. The relationship may go sour because a child was not in the plan. Secondly, we as woman have our off days, but ladies NOT EVERYDAY IS AN OFF DAY! He wants to see the person he feels in love with once in a while. You have to be on your a game, always...
**** Please leave your comments and questions for POSITIVE feedback...
Until next time... Love your self, encourage your self!!
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